Amida Adamu

Happiness, discipline and success stem from focus and self-control - with the most important factor being your own self-discipline.

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How to Improve Your Discipline

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The build up usually starts from a young age where you formulate a perception of yourself through likes & dislikes to beliefs and behaviours.

How to Love your Dark/Shadow Side

the day I realised I’d been cheating on myself 
in settling for an okay relationship,
the words, “enough is enough” took a whole new meaning 




Epiphany

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If you could physically hold your heart and see how it performs when it’s happy and how it performs after every heartbreak you put it through


Choosing Peace for the Heart

in someone’s story, you are the villain
in another, you are the hero
there’ll be stories where your name won’t even be mentioned or recognised


Villains & Heroes

sometimes it takes you leaving 
a certain place, a person or something to access what really belongs in your life


Leap of Faith

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There is no better fulfilment than to watch a seed grow because you chose to water it


Benefits

give your time, attention and love to friends & family
it’s even better to give yourself the same first


Self Care

A key foundation for success in love means: you must love and accept yourself first before you choose “to look for” someone else to fall for you. 


Are you looking for Love?

Simplifying your life can create more space, add value to your available time and refuel your mind, body and spirit. 

How to Simplify your Life

being sensitive isn’t a sign of weakness
it’s the in depth understanding of emotions in their purest form
honour this feeling, don’t fight it


Being 

unmasking your sorrow is a form of healing 
bottling it, will drain your life force and keep you caged


Unmasking Sorrow

it's sad to think that there are some partners who will purposely rob you of attention, affection & the all-important dopamine kick you get from making love

Robbing Pleasure

Where there is no responsibility, stability can’t fully exist

Play your Part

look in the mirror
nothing will be fine unless you are


Bypassing Illusion

sometimes we want things to happen for us
but we forget we also have to be prepared to receive them 
create space, so you can be prepared to receive

Receiving blessings

We live in an era where instant gratification can bring us moments of temporary joy but there are benefits for which delayed gratification can bring us. 

How to Overcome Instant Gratification

As humans, we crave for closeness and intimacy and when we feel there is a lack of, our mindset shifts.

The fear of being Alone

All of us feel and wish to have love in our lives and also be loved

Needing Love

You should focus on your sole path to find fulfilment instead of competing.

Fulfilment 

The abundant world we live in today has a way of making “excess” look like  “it’s not enough”


Excess x Enough

The truth is that, it’s easier to see your good traits in someone else than it is to see it in yourself

Narcissistic Mirror

Recognising the collateral consequence of decisions you make will have you prioritising and protecting your inner peace

Collateral Consequence

Chains, egotistic behaviour and feeling tied to someone like a prisoner isn’t good for your well being, free yourself

Chains

When you have setbacks, it’s very easy to default into thinking that you will always keep failing in this area of your life. 

What to do if & When you Fail

Just because you think you may have failed doesn't mean you should give up. Get up and try again!

Try Again 

Do people appreciate the journey you have gone through? Your duty is to continue down your own path and discover yourself.

Appreciation

You can't stay in a toxic relationship with someone who doesn't deserve you. Time heals all wounds physical and emotional.

Take Action

Are you finding yourself being super stressed and exhausted? Sometimes the only thing that will make you feel better are the things you enjoy.

Essentials

Never allow a relationship to depreciate or make you question your self worth. You deserve better than that!

Breeding Ground 

Shoutout to all the people going through struggles, detachment, loss and much more. You are important, stay with us, talk and connect with love. 

Simply Living

Simply living

Whilst it can be hard to accept that some people may not want to change, it’s important to first understand and accept them for who they are. 

How to Change Other People

Are you feeling anxious and stressed at work during uncertain times? Here are some tips and antidotes to relieve stress that is happening at your workspace.

Antidotes to Stress @ Work

Contrary to popular belief, the act of meditation doesn’t always or have to be, “the heavily marketed being sitting in one place or in the lotus position and chanting the words, ''OHMMM  or YAMMM”. 

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If You Can’t Sit Still to Meditate

We all strive for the better throughout our lives whether that’s in health, money or relationships. We now live in an “Amazon Prime and Get Abs in only 2 weeks”  kinda world 

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Overlooked factors in making a Positive Change for your Happiness

Nothing starts big! Regardless of your views it's all a step-by-step process  one which we often undermine or somehow seem to not register its significance

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The Incredible Impact "Starting Small" Makes

Do you want to grow your happiness? Start by accepting yourself and the immense wealth of your friendships and loved ones. It can bring you so much comfort.

Happiness

Some gifts aren't always wrapped but come in forms of kindness and affection. You can choose to interpret this love as a gift and boost your confidence.

Everyday Gifts

Be the change you wish to see. This can be possible for you by checking yourself and making the right changes for growth. Be grateful and move forward.

The Change you Wish to See

If you outgrow a group of friends, you must seek elsewhere. Finding your tribe is a journey and they will eventually come to accompany the new you.

Tribe

You can’t give up! Keep moving forward and follow the journey before you. 


Steps

Consistency is key! Take a day for a few days but don't make it a habit.


Take a break

 Repeat these phrases to feel empowered and loved. This can spark a positive change in your mood and allow you to grow physically and mentally.

Cutting ties

Sometimes we need to repeat some phrases to ourselves in order to manifest self-love and gratitude. Try saying this phrase to yourself for your well-being.

Rewards

I know decluttering your life may seem like an impossible task if you don't know where to even begin but I got you!The major tip is to ask yourself, whether the item you are holding i.e. a pair of jeans brings you joy.

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How to Declutter Your Life

Is it too late to let your childlike energy to flow? As we grow up, we shut out certain things that made us happy in our youth but this doesn’t have to be the case

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What will you say to the 10 year old you?

Did you know that there is joy in not getting what you want? Number 1 is that it’s a redirection and this is where I say the grass will be greener if you choose to water it

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Why there is Joy in Not Getting What You Want

What is the meaning of cleansing your senses and ultimately your life? Here are a few tips on proportioning, releasing and transforming totally cost free!

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How to Use Your Senses to Cleanse Your Life (All Cost Free)

Empty Cups

It is time for you to use your voice in order to aspire make changes in this world.

Choices

Some people may treat you with pain and disregard, yet you treat the with respect and walk away.

Dirty Games

Even the most beautiful people with the purest of hearts can attract someone who will belittle and hurt them.

Moths too, like Bling

Master the art of having patience with yourself and make it a journey that you never come off.

New Normal

The realest friendships are the ones that are like family.

The Realest

Affirm these four powerful phrases in order to transform your energy. 

Affirm this to Transform Energy

Have faith in what you do and move forward.

Hidden Gems

Some days you will feel extremely strong and other days you just can’t get over the feeling of hurt and tiredness. It’s time for you to normalise saying, “I have now done my part and I need to let go with no expectations”.

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Strong but hurt and tired? This is for you!

Here are some tips of letting go of emotional weight (excludes cardio, kettlebells and burpees). It can be hard, but there are some activities to do in order to normalise speaking being present

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 Top tips on letting go of emotional weight 

Top tips on letting go of emotional weight (excludes cardio, kettlebells and burpees)

Self-improvement is the mindset of improving ourselves through mental health and our relationships. Look to your peers or role models for inspiration, creativity and support where needed. Then use this as the force to drive you in developing yourself further.  

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How can you Better Yourself

How Can You Better Yourself?

Cutting the cord from toxic attachments doesn’t necessarily mean that someone will change. It just means that people won't be entangled in your energy and you learn to prioritise your inner peace in draining situations

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How to Cut the Cord from Toxic Attachments

An apprenticeship is to learn, make mistakes and grow. Take the time to learn and go at your own pace. 

Apprenticeship

You need to drown all the self doubt you have about yourself and shower yourself with kindness. 

Drowning Self Doubt

Don't leave yourself an empty cup by pouring into other energy fields. Don't forget that you need to hydrate yourself too. 

A seat at the table can also be a killer of confidence because you try so hard to fit in. Make your own rules and dictate the positions in your house.


My own damn house

Have you ever read the story of the tortoise and the hare? The turtle won the race not for it's speed, but for it's consistent efforts.

Little steps

Little Steps

You will be having fun with the people that value you, like you, and support you. You will be with people that have your best interest at heart.

Don't question my intentions and my loyalty towards you. Out of so many options, the only person I choose is you.

Hijo de la gran ****

Enough

Finding your group of friends can be a journey, but they will eventually support the new you and will accompany you.

New You

Before we go to thinking about relationships with others, let’s talk about the relationship with ourselves, which is probably one of the hardest things to do - Self Love! 

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Everybody say love …  Loooveee!!  🎤

How to Practice Intimate Forms of Self Love | Everybody say Looove 🎤

A guide on how to cheer yourself up when times are tough. Let me give you examples of what created hope for me in tough situations and a few tips.

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How to Cheer Yourself Up When Times are Tough

Often, we make the mistake of assuming that giving and receiving is a trade meaning, when we give to someone, the same person has to return back to us to balance the flow

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Do you know how to receive graciously?

With the New Moon, energy can be manifested for your own desires. The practice of rituals can help you align yourself to co-create with the Universe by harnessing its energy to power your manifestations

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New Moon Manifestation

This poem identifies our individuality and our birthright. While we all compare ourselves, we all that the right to love and choose who we want to be.

Birthright

Celebrating myself because I have come this far. It’s now your turn to celebrate how far you have come too.



Celebrations for All

But why are you so comfortable in dimming your own light to fit in.                                  Be the extra insta lighting in your day to day.

Dimming to Fit

Filters are used to blur and mask emotions. Just because they are smiling doesn’t mean they are happy. Not everything you see is what it seems.


It's a filter

It’s a filter

Euphoria is an overwhelming feeling of excitement and well-being. When you are in love and full of energy you are euphoric.

Euphoria

My capacity to tune into the energy of love illuminates my aura and gives me the power I need to love myself.

Say this love phrase to yourself

Walking away from situations can be very daunting, but you should always make a decision even if it's really tough.

Funny

May your efforts be recognised, and your pockets full. 

Recognition

On this journey, I have learnt new ways in how best to fulfil my needs and create a balance and I hope this can help you too. Give wholeheartedly and in that, you too shall receive

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How to give Wholeheartedly

How to Give Wholeheartedly

These are three mega tips that will help you set boundaries.You don't have to be rude, negative, raise your voice. Just let the person know how you feel.

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3 Mega Tips on Setting Boundaries

Sometimes saying the word no is enough! It is hard to set boundaries with people who have walked all over you but you need to stand up for yourself. 

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Why the word, “NO” in itself is a complete sentence

At many points in life, we have to start over again and sometimes we just don’t want to. This poem encourages you to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Starting Over

Starting over and moving forward in life can be very difficult. You can overcome and push through this process by taking charge and learning how to detach

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3 ways to Start Over & Move forward in Life

3 Ways to Start Over & Move Forward In Your Life

Goosebumps are normal when you have a crush.Chills going through your body, feelings of love and date night excitement. Quick phone texts and a racing heart

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Goosebumps

Do you eat a lot and are you a foodie Here’s a shoulder to cry on in case you you haven’t yet eaten.You can shower someone with love, dont forget yourself

Foodie

It is more than a fling when emotions and feelings arise but are you ready to commit to someone who seems like the perfect catch.Say cheese & take a picture

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Dine & Wife

Leaving behind emotional baggage can be draining but it’s also self love. Take care of yourself. Learn to practice self-care and pamper yourself.

Bye to Emotional Baggage

Bye to the emotional baggage

Ways to be kind to yourself. You are a work in progress and you are enough.Change the negative thoughts for positive and leave behind your emotional baggage

Be kind to yourself

Be kinder to yourself

Your new beginnings are exciting times to look forward to. Sometimes you need a mental health boost to help you during difficult situations.

Allow me to be your cheerleader

Allow me to be your cheerleader...

Think about things you like about yourself. The divine is within you. People may not believe in you, but never underestimate yourself. You are powerful!

welcome!

reaching out to bridge the gap - you are not alone